Excerpts from my understanding of my life. If it sounds ridiculous, you are free to discuss and a lot more free to reject the ideas below!
Disclaimer:
Though it sounds, even to me, as if these are original thoughts of mine, I cannot deny the fact that these bits and pieces were actually the inferences and improvisation over the preaching of somebody else - say Lord Krishna or ThiruValluvar or Sathguru or my Father, with resepect to actual effects of incidents in my life.
Lesson 1
HAPPINESS OR SORROW - IT IS INFECTIOUS AND THE INTENSITY REDUCES AS YOU PASS ON THE INFECTION TO THE SURROUNDINGS
When you feel happy or sorrow and when you share with your loved ones, it infects them. It makes them join your mood - be it joyful or sorrowful. But, when it is shared, the intensity of the feeling splits into 3 parts - 1 part to the with you, one part with your friend and the other to the environment. It doesn't mean, one should not share. But, it means we can always share with a very less most trusted circle, who we know will always be there for us.
Lesson 2
STRESS IS A SYMBOL OF FAILURE (A FEAR) TO HANDLE A NEW SITUATION
It is very probable that everyone of us get stressed, when we are introduced into a new environment. Because, the picture frame which we have about the world we live in, is changed substantially when the environment changes. So, it takes some time for us to accommodate the fact that something has changed. But, this accomodation gets easier when we try to remain with the flow, without losing our values, rather than inteding to change it as we desire. One who knows and learns to handle the change in situation, is relieved of the stress, which is primarily the fear of comfortable living.
Lesson 3
ANNOYANCE MULTIPLIES
Stress makes us get annoyed with the environment and with the people who we know, will never leave us alone - in other words, those who we take for granted. I say this because, one doesn't tend to show the stress to people who are new. That's a sign of trust that we have on the relationship, and love starts fading at this point. We tend to go far that we fail to see the pains that we cause to the beloved and much more concerned about the pain we are in.
Too much of trust is as deceiving and dangerous as having nothing at all.
The problem gets worse when the person opposite to to us, takes us for granted and responds back in a similar fashion. It multiplies between the entities, to a point which breaks down one of the two.
Lesson 4
SO IS LOVE...!
The only way to assess the limits is to put the ourselves on other's shoes - that happens by itself, when you have a stronger love with that person.
Just like the annoyance, love is also something that gets multiplied between two people. The more the sincere love you show for other, the more the other responds to it. Of course, this will not happen when the LOVE IS FILLED WITH AN EXPECTATION FROM THE OTHER... When somebody loves the other, expecting something from them, it actually means THEY LOVE THEMSELVES MORE THAN THE OTHER.
LOVING SOMEBODY JUST FOR THE SAKE OF LOVING IS PHENOMENAL... RARE OF THE RAREST. CAN OFTEN BE FOUND IN MOTHERS (OR MOTHER-LIKE).
Lesson 5
GRATITUDE IS THE WAY TO LOVE, WHICH IN TURN, MAKES EITHER OF THEM - THE TRANSMITTER AND THE RECEIVER - STRONG AND HAPPY
During my days in College until those days in Saudi Arabia, I used to feel like the whole life threw some sh** on my face. Something was terribly not my kind; neither that i needed. Something that was not meant for me.
Everything around me seemed to force me into something that I am not. I hated the word "Change"
I ardently hoped for the life to remain the way I was comfortable with.
I used to suffer with inability to comprehend what was happening around. I showed all my frustrations from things around me, on everybody who I knew, that I loved from the bottom of my heart. [Ref. lesson 1 to 4 for the causes]
Then, I got this book - "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. I read this book only to kill my time, then - as part of my attempts to vent out the frustrations. The first thing I noticed from the book was to
thank the bed on which I slept the last night and then continue thanking everything I use.
It was so stupid when I read. But, I just tried it with a blind belief. I thanked the Bed, the pillow, the bed sheet, then the tooth brush and almost everything. That is when I started to feel that it was me who threw sh** on my face.
I understood that I have lived a very stupid life, until then. All those things were around me, had helped me remain comfortable. I was taking them for granted and never cared about them, in return.
No matter how big or small an object is, it has its own significance in the big picture. It just needs to be regarded. Once we do that, we start getting close to realization of the ultimate truth.
Lesson 6
HANDLING KARMA - DETACH ONE'S SELF FROM THE RESULTS OF YOUR ACTIONS
Karma is a very popular term and the most less understood. For now, I can suggest only one thing.
Don't act based on your desires. Just listen to what is right for that situation. Do your duty. And, the rest falls in place.
When you start doing this, at some point, you will realize what KARMA is all about.
Lesson 7
CHANGE IS INEVITABLE AND SURVIVAL COMES WITH ACCEPTANCE OF THE INTENT TO CHANGE.
Only thing, that would be possible perpetually is to "love your neighbor".
Disclaimer:
Though it sounds, even to me, as if these are original thoughts of mine, I cannot deny the fact that these bits and pieces were actually the inferences and improvisation over the preaching of somebody else - say Lord Krishna or ThiruValluvar or Sathguru or my Father, with resepect to actual effects of incidents in my life.
Lesson 1
HAPPINESS OR SORROW - IT IS INFECTIOUS AND THE INTENSITY REDUCES AS YOU PASS ON THE INFECTION TO THE SURROUNDINGS
When you feel happy or sorrow and when you share with your loved ones, it infects them. It makes them join your mood - be it joyful or sorrowful. But, when it is shared, the intensity of the feeling splits into 3 parts - 1 part to the with you, one part with your friend and the other to the environment. It doesn't mean, one should not share. But, it means we can always share with a very less most trusted circle, who we know will always be there for us.
Lesson 2
STRESS IS A SYMBOL OF FAILURE (A FEAR) TO HANDLE A NEW SITUATION
It is very probable that everyone of us get stressed, when we are introduced into a new environment. Because, the picture frame which we have about the world we live in, is changed substantially when the environment changes. So, it takes some time for us to accommodate the fact that something has changed. But, this accomodation gets easier when we try to remain with the flow, without losing our values, rather than inteding to change it as we desire. One who knows and learns to handle the change in situation, is relieved of the stress, which is primarily the fear of comfortable living.
Lesson 3
ANNOYANCE MULTIPLIES
Stress makes us get annoyed with the environment and with the people who we know, will never leave us alone - in other words, those who we take for granted. I say this because, one doesn't tend to show the stress to people who are new. That's a sign of trust that we have on the relationship, and love starts fading at this point. We tend to go far that we fail to see the pains that we cause to the beloved and much more concerned about the pain we are in.
Too much of trust is as deceiving and dangerous as having nothing at all.
The problem gets worse when the person opposite to to us, takes us for granted and responds back in a similar fashion. It multiplies between the entities, to a point which breaks down one of the two.
Lesson 4
SO IS LOVE...!
The only way to assess the limits is to put the ourselves on other's shoes - that happens by itself, when you have a stronger love with that person.
Just like the annoyance, love is also something that gets multiplied between two people. The more the sincere love you show for other, the more the other responds to it. Of course, this will not happen when the LOVE IS FILLED WITH AN EXPECTATION FROM THE OTHER... When somebody loves the other, expecting something from them, it actually means THEY LOVE THEMSELVES MORE THAN THE OTHER.
LOVING SOMEBODY JUST FOR THE SAKE OF LOVING IS PHENOMENAL... RARE OF THE RAREST. CAN OFTEN BE FOUND IN MOTHERS (OR MOTHER-LIKE).
Lesson 5
GRATITUDE IS THE WAY TO LOVE, WHICH IN TURN, MAKES EITHER OF THEM - THE TRANSMITTER AND THE RECEIVER - STRONG AND HAPPY
During my days in College until those days in Saudi Arabia, I used to feel like the whole life threw some sh** on my face. Something was terribly not my kind; neither that i needed. Something that was not meant for me.
Everything around me seemed to force me into something that I am not. I hated the word "Change"
I ardently hoped for the life to remain the way I was comfortable with.
I used to suffer with inability to comprehend what was happening around. I showed all my frustrations from things around me, on everybody who I knew, that I loved from the bottom of my heart. [Ref. lesson 1 to 4 for the causes]
Then, I got this book - "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. I read this book only to kill my time, then - as part of my attempts to vent out the frustrations. The first thing I noticed from the book was to
thank the bed on which I slept the last night and then continue thanking everything I use.
It was so stupid when I read. But, I just tried it with a blind belief. I thanked the Bed, the pillow, the bed sheet, then the tooth brush and almost everything. That is when I started to feel that it was me who threw sh** on my face.
I understood that I have lived a very stupid life, until then. All those things were around me, had helped me remain comfortable. I was taking them for granted and never cared about them, in return.
No matter how big or small an object is, it has its own significance in the big picture. It just needs to be regarded. Once we do that, we start getting close to realization of the ultimate truth.
Lesson 6
HANDLING KARMA - DETACH ONE'S SELF FROM THE RESULTS OF YOUR ACTIONS
Karma is a very popular term and the most less understood. For now, I can suggest only one thing.
Don't act based on your desires. Just listen to what is right for that situation. Do your duty. And, the rest falls in place.
When you start doing this, at some point, you will realize what KARMA is all about.
Lesson 7
CHANGE IS INEVITABLE AND SURVIVAL COMES WITH ACCEPTANCE OF THE INTENT TO CHANGE.
Only thing, that would be possible perpetually is to "love your neighbor".
